Supergirl Melissa Benoist's ex takes 'responsibility' for 'physically' abusing her- but claims she also 'assaulted' himOctober 9, 2020
MELISSA Benoist's ex has taken "responsibility' for allegedly physically abusing her – but Blake Jenner claimed the Supergirl star was also "verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive."
On Thursday, Jenner issued a lengthy statement on Instagram after Benoist, 32, alleged in November that she was "slapped repeatedly and punched" by a former partner.
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Benoist and her co-star husband Christopher Wood announced that expecting their first child after her emotional video confession last year.
She met Jenner when their Glee characters struck up a romance on the show and the actors were engaged by the fifth season in 2013. They were married two years later.
Without naming Benoist, Jenner described their ill-fated relationship as "a foundation rooted in co-dependency, which had dire consequences" three years after their divorce in December 2017.
In the lengthy statement, he took "full responsibility and accountability for the hurt that I inflicted during my relationship with my past partner" – but alleged that he was also a victim.
"I, too, have had to conceal and make up lies about many visible injuries I had incurred throughout the relationship," Jenner said. "I was physically assaulted in the shower, leaving me with a traumatic injury that I do not want to delve into at this time."
But Jenner acknowledged that during a heated "argument that escalated" he flung his phone "aimlessly" out of frustration and "it hit my former partner in her face," echoing Benoist's video.
"I froze in a state of shock and horror as my then partner screamed in anguish, her eye immediately swollen shut from the impact of the phone," he wrote.
The actor also revealed that there was "mental, emotional, and physical abuse inflicted from both ends," which prompted them to see a therapist.
Unfortunately, he said, they were stuck in a "toxic cycle": Jenner alleged that he was "scratched … slapped" and punched in the face so hard he too was hospitalized.
He noted that he didn't want it to turn into a "she-said-he-said mudslinging match and also blamed his "false ideas of manhood."
According to Jenner, he was "made to pass on jobs and opportunities" because of jealousy of prospective female co-stars at professional events."
He claimed that he was discouraged from developing relationships or taking photos with the actresses he was working with.
"I was made to feel guilty for working as I received calls from my former partner while I was away, threatening self-harm out of depression and a deep-seated fear of abandonment," he wrote.
"I was isolated – prohibited from seeing my friends for years, resulting in this toxic relationship becoming the entirety of my world.
"I was verbally and emotionally abused for everything from the family I was born into to the clothes I would wear on photoshoots."
His 6-swipe statement was posted nearly a year after Benoist alleged that she was a domestic abuse survivor in an emotional IGTV video.
Jenner said he wanted both of them to heal and apologized to his former partner, saying "there are many things that I wish I could have done differently."
His emotional statement came 11 months after Benoist posted a 14-minute long video on Instagram about domestic abuse.
"The stark truth is I learned what it felt like to be pinned down and slapped repeatedly, punched so hard the wind was knocked out of me, dragged by my hair across pavement, head-butted, pinched until my skin broke, shoved into a wall so hard the drywall broke, choked," she said.
"I learned to lock myself in rooms but quickly stopped because the door was inevitably broken down. I learned to not value any of my property — replaceable and irreplaceable. I learned not to value myself."
She told fans that it is "still hard for me to dissect what I was thinking and feeling that kept me from stopping what felt like a runaway freight train".
In the video, Melissa added that the abuse began as jealousy and lack of trust, and that her attacker was "insecure and depressed."
But it soon turned physical and she shared how the first attack was a smoothie thrown over her. It then escalated, and her attacker launched an iPhone at her face.
Melissa had to visit the hospital and was diagnosed with a broken nose and torn iris, which she said will now affect her eyesight forever.
She claimed that the pair decided to tell hospital staff that she fell down a flight of stairs, and it was later a story she told on The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon.
However in her Instagram video, Melissa revealed that this incident was a turning point.
“Leaving was not a walk in a park. It’s not an event — it’s a process,” she said.
“None of this is salacious news, it was my reality. What I went through caused a tectonic shift in my outlook on life.”
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