We're in dating 'drafting season' – here's what it means

We're in dating 'drafting season' – here's what it means

September 20, 2022

Time to round up your best players.

Soon we’ll be in cuffing season – that time of the year in which we couple up so we’ve got someone to take to the Christmas party and cuddle in the cold.

It’s not exactly the most empowering of times, and might lead to you settling quickly, without really deciding if they’re a good match.

Drafting season however, is the opposite. It’s a time to sow your oats, be dating freely, and choosing someone wisely.

It’s the precursor to cuffing time, and when done right it means you’re more likely to find a match that lasts beyond the winter, even, brace yourself, well into summer.

Sex expert Kelly Gordon from sex tech brand Hot Octopuss explains: ‘Drafting in all your best possible options as the weather begins to turn is just common sense if you’re planning on coupling up for Christmas.

‘And many single people welcome the draft.

‘This period of “tryouts” separates would-be relationship material from ghosts, breadcrumbers and love bombers.

Top tips for drafting season

  • Be open to people outside of your usual ‘type’.
  • Enjoy getting to know anyone that shares your interests.
  • Keep dating in a fun and non-serious way as you figure out who you like best.
  • Don’t rush to make something exclusive.
  • Don’t feel the need to settle if no one feels right for you during cuffing season.

Why should you try drafting season?

Kelly says: ‘Drafting season may sound like a bit of fun, but it’s actually a healthy exercise in self-awareness and self-preservation.

‘The winter months can be a vulnerable time for all people, as daylight fades and serotonin dips. Mental health issues spike and the global loneliness index rises.

‘By taking stock of your relationships and making good choices about who you’ll choose to spend your time with and share your energy with as the nights draw in, you’re making choices about your health and happiness in the coming months.’

She adds that in polyamorous relationships, drafting becomes even more important.

Drafting is about choosing and having options, rather than feeling a lack.

When we date from this place, we’re more likely to pick someone we’re healthily compatible with.

‘Making the right choice about the partner you’ll spend the next few months, maybe more with, is essential,’ Kelly says.

So, who will you be drafting in? 

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