Teen creates 'basic transgender etiquette' guide as Elliot Page comes outDecember 3, 2020
A teenager has come up with a guide for people to observe basic etiquette when talking about Elliot Page, who recently came out as trans.
Martin, a 17-year-old creator from Canada, made a list of simple rules to follow in order to show politeness and respect to transgender people.
The teen stressed that people following this guide weren’t going get a ‘special prize’ just for using the correct pronouns.
He encouraged people to learn pronouns and that it’s okay if they make a mistake – as long as they don’t make a big deal of it.
Martin shared the list on Twitter where it blew up, amassing more than 200,000 likes.
On the list, he stated: ‘You don’t use their birth name. ever. that s*** is dead, you forget that it even existed’.
This is called ‘deadnaming’, which Martin said you should never do.
Martin also discouraged against using certain sentences such as ‘she is now a he’.
He added: ‘“Omg I never would have known you were trans” is not the compliment you think it is – if you slip up on names and pronouns, that’s okay, just quickly correct yourself and move on. Don’t make it a big deal, for God’s sake don’t make it a big deal. Make an effort to learn pronouns.
‘Correct people if they use the wrong pronouns – don’t f*****g ask people what surgeries they’ve had/are planning on having.
‘You don’t get a special prize for using the right name and pronouns, it’s basic respect. Don’t act like you’re doing them a favour.’
Martin’s message to respect trans people resonated with many.
He added: ‘Everyone transitions in their own way and at their own pace. You don’t get to police that – don’t ask them if their label on their sexuality has changed. They’ll talk about that in their own time. Just be f*****g respectful, people, it’s not hard.’
Since the tweet went viral, Martin has said that he wants to use the opportunity to raise awareness and support for his friend Kai who is fundraising for top surgery.
You can donate to the cause on the GoFundMe page.
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