Apprentice star turned life coach Jessica Cunningham on how to quit toxic habits in 2021 – including phone addictionDecember 30, 2020
THIS year has been a rubbish one for most, meaning we're all ready for a fresh start in 2021.
But before you set your New Year's resolutions, there may a few toxic habits you could leave in 2020.
Former The Apprentice star turned life coach Jessica Cunningham, 33, says: "Most people have this deep-rooted, and subconscious limiting belief that they don’t deserve happiness.
"And the worst part of it, they aren’t even consciously aware of this fact, and so we continue with toxic habits and repeat them year after year."
Mum-of-four Jessica, who's expecting her fifth child, tells Fabulous her tips for quitting your toxic habits ASAP – from phone addiction to sleepless nights.
1. Negative self-talk
Have you ever told yourself you're not good enough, pretty enough or fun enough for people to want to be around you?
Most people have, and every time you say these things it makes you feel worse, so you doubt yourself further in future.
For three days, try to reverse this negative spiral. Every time a negative thought comes into your mind, make yourself say five things you love about yourself.
Most people have this deep-rooted, and subconscious limiting belief that they don’t deserve happiness. And the worst part of it, they aren’t even consciously aware of this fact, and so we continue with toxic habits and repeat them year after year
By repeating this, you can change your whole way of thinking and become a naturally more positive person.
Nobody's perfect but we all have positive qualities, let's try to cling to those in 2021.
2. Phone addiction
We all get excited when our phones buzz, but when you're still checking work emails or in a group Whatsapp at midnight, it can get overwhelming.
Our phones literally keep us switched on, and not in a good way. In 2021, try going 45 minutes every morning without any technology.
And when you're busy with work or looking after your kids, start switching it into airplane mode.
You'll be surprised how quickly it helps you combat stress and make you feel calmer.
3. Sleepless nights
Sleep is important to reduce stress levels and lower your risk of depression, something many people have been struggling with during lockdown.
Our bodies also use nighttime as a chance to repair themselves, regenerate any cell damage and also process the day.
To banish insomnia for good, create a 10-minute bedtime ritual – such as spraying lavender spray on your pillow and doing some reading.
Writing down any thoughts which are going round in your head can also help.
By creating a ritual, your brain realises it's time to go to sleep and you'll be snoozing away in no time.
4. Comparing yourself to others
Comparison truly is the thief of joy and although it is natural, social media has intensified this for all of us.
Next time you're scrolling through Instagram and feeling rubbish, don't ignore the feeling.
Look at the person you're comparing yourself to, find one thing to praise them about, then write down all your personal achievements – even really little ones – which have made you feel good this year.
Most of the people boasting on Instagram have already achieved their goals, don't compare your work in progress to their success story.
I've worked with many incredible clients who have seen success after completely changing their thought process.
Criticising yourself only hurts your inner child and gets you into a negative, unproductive spiral.
To leave your feelings of self-hate in 2020, you need to start setting aside some 'me time'.
I have four kids, a fifth on the way and run two businesses, so I know this can be difficult – but it's not impossible.
It can be as simple as taking five minutes every time you make a brew, hiding away in your bedroom to drink it.
The more you take time for yourself, the more you'll learn to love yourself – and start making better choices in life.
In January 2021, Jessica is launching Conscious Female Entrepreneurs – with masterclasses for self-development and growth. Follow her on Instagram @conscious.female.entrepreneurs.
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